Relationships have become an integral part of our lives now. To be honest, it’s the most liberating feeling in the world to find a person who’s just right for you. But sometimes things just don’t seem to work out and the worst possible outcomes reveal themself.
Yes, the process of falling in love is beautiful and that’s the phase in a relationship when you’re sensitive to feeling all sorts of emotions. Everything around and between you two seems to hold some intoxicating magic. Nothing but your other half’s company is needed by you. But, that also means, the process of breaking up with them is hard and it hurts like hell. All the beautiful memories, the moments which you both seemed to have created seem to be delusional and hold no meaning. You are blinded to all your faults but their actions. Ego issues come to rise and everything quite literally becomes a mess including you.
The worst part is to see them move on easily. It makes you question if the beautiful thing which you both had was even real. The reason being, you are constantly haunted by their memories. The “moving-on phase” is the hardest and makes you experience some great deal of emotional breakdowns. No idea about love being a boon or bane but it brings pain.
Lack of compatibility, misunderstandings, miscommunications, jealousy, insecurity, loss of trust, your partner’s shortcomings, mistreatment, and loss of feelings are some of the root reasons why people end a relationship.
The most challenging part being able to move on, to get over your ex. Quite frankly, it depends upon the bond which you both must have shared or how much you invested yourself in the relationship. More investment meaning immense damage and vice-versa. That lingering feeling of longing for them is just hard to get over and can’t be simply ignored. Various mental issues arise and a lack of mental peace and stability is experienced.
But, you gotta do what you gotta do i.e., move on. It’s not easy but it gets easier with time. So, here we are with some tips on how to get over a relationship.
- Self-reliance: You don’t always have to depend on a person for your emotional support. Moreover, it can never be for sure that the one(s) you love will be there for you in the toughest of your times. Self-reliance is what you need to become. Focus on yourself, develop your strengths and work on your mental and emotional stability instead of grieving. You’re more than what you think of yourself and you’re much more capable than what people make you think of yourself. That’ll be more than enough for you.
- Talk to Someone: Keeping your feelings, emotions and all that aggression to yourself would be just punishing yourself. Let them out for good. Free them up and decongest yourself. Those things are quite intoxicating and end up being the root reason for your mental and emotional instability. Therefore, share them with someone with whom you feel comfortable. It doesn’t necessarily need to be a friend. People are not that bad when talked to. Of course, it won’t completely heal you but, yes, you’ll be comforted. Also, avoid being antisocial. That will have a reverse reaction and you’ll end up becoming sadder than you were.
- Keep yourself busy: Sometimes, distractions are not so bad. They’re helpful. Keep yourself busy as a distraction to your sadness. It’ll be hard initially and you’ll find your brain wandering for the unwanted, but trust me, it gets better. Start working hard for your studies, start building up on your weaknesses, make your strengths even better, start playing a sport, start working out or develop a hobby. It could be anything and everything that takes you to focus on yourself.
- Socialize yourself: One thing that most people fail to realize is that being antisocial after a breakup is a combo attack that should be avoided at all costs. You never know how and when you come across the right people or the right one for that matter of fact. Some right people do come at the right time and you hold the power to let them in. So, why stop something good from coming your way?
These were some insights out of quite some experience in the very domain. Hope they help you and you find your way out of oblivion. To get over someone makes you realize your worth and let me tell to you, you’re worth it and you deserve much more than you believe. Trust the process.