These days dating is in trend. Hollywood commercials have made it so popular, that people are imposed to date each other. But, with time the madness in love vanishes and you start getting a real taste of it. So, this article talks about those stages in a new relationship and how to go through these changes.
First Stage: New Relationship Bliss
The first stage in almost all new relationships is perfect bliss! You easily communicate with each other constantly. There are no triggers that take place to upset you and the attraction is terrific.
We pour in equal efforts to get to know one another have patience, understanding, and joy in getting to know other person’s quirks, thoughts, and patterns.
This first stage sets a base for the relationship and builds a connection.
But it seems like it won’t last much. Though it can feel like this, it only means that your relationship is changing, and that’s okay. It’s completely natural, and this process of evolving is what takes you into even a deeper connection if both partners are willing to go there.
Second Stage: The Unavoidable Drift (When One Person’s Fear Pops Up)
So, what exactly is happening when the fearsome, unavoidable “shift” happens? You feel like the other person is either walking apart or becoming more controlling and we feel like we are becoming distant from each other.
There’s a big drift when our comfort level gradually establishes in a relationship and we let our guard down a bit. This is the perfect time for our fear to kick in. You no longer felt emotionally stable, relaxed, or happy.
we aren’t even aware of what’s happening; we just observe we feel differently. Our past fears, sufferings, and childhood bandages have surfaced for more healing, and if we don’t realize this, our new, wonderful, blissful relationship begins to feel just like the rest of them: disheartening, toxic, abandoning, obstructive, unreliable, and unloving.
Third Stage: Communicating the Fear
This can be difficult if we aren’t aware of what is going on, but let that change, that first feeling of doubt be your indication that fear has entered the relationship. And realize that it’s alright for it to be there!
The fear is there as a signal. It’s asking to be attuned to and it is a gift necessary for our development When we share our fear, we embrace it, and it does not mean blaming the other person. We don’t share our fears to change our partner or to have them heal us, but just to allow our hearts to communicate deeply.
The best part is that we get to see how the other persons handle this. Our relationships need this stage and this transformation from the easy, wonderful bliss because, without it, our bonds will never deepen.
It’s never too early to initiate the sharing of fears. If we wait for the problem to just boo away, we are keeping the cycle of anxiety, doubt, and tension going, because our energy reflects our interest in the relationship.
Stay connected to yourself and speak your truth—the whole, messy, superb truth. Let your partner see the entire you, quirks and everyone, and revel in taking your walls down along, brick by brick.
Hope these tips will help you in having an ever-lasting relationship.